As an international student that has garnered most of their information about the United States but Hollywood imagery and CNN newscasts, you may believe that most Americans are extremely easygoing. It is true that Americans are known for thinking freely and saying and doing whatever they like.
However, this is only part of the story. Surprisingly, many Americans are quite traditional. There are certain things they feel uncomfortable talking about; many things that unaware travelers might do which could make them uneasy. For example, it’s considered impolite to talk about religion or politics when making a new acquaintance. But some things may be less obvious. If you travel to the U.S. there are a few things you should NOT do if you want to fit in. This kind of social mistake is called a faux pas (fo pa).
- Not making eye contact
Not meeting people’s eyes when you talk to them is a particularly strong faux pas in the USA. Americans typically feel they can’t really communicate with someone unless that person is looking at them. That doesn’t mean you have to stare at them without blinking, but at least some eye contact is necessary. Also, don’t look at your phone when they are talking.
- The Dead Fish
Shaking hands is a common greeting for both men and women in the U.S. When you are introduced to others you may need to shake hands. It’s most common when you meet coworkers or acquaintances and often when saying goodbye. It’s important to keep in mind that a handshake should be firm. That means, it should be strong enough to show confidence but not so strong that you seem aggressive. I remember my father always told me, ‘don’t give anyone a dead fish, son.’ So, if you need to shake hands in the U.S., have a firm grip but don’t try to break the other person’s hand.
- Pushing choices on people
Freedom of choice is a big thing in the U.S. If you´re having lunch with a friend, don’t ask them to eat anything or tell them what they should choose. Don’t insist that they try something when it’s clear they are apprehensive or have no interest. And definitely don´t ask them more than twice. Americans value their freedom to choose with an intense passion. In America, choices are defining of one’s character. So, it’s better to ask someone what they want.
- Being overly critical of American culture
Unless you know the people you are talking to very well, it’s a good idea not to go out of your way to insult or criticize the country you are visiting. You’ve probably heard of American freedom of speech, and maybe you’re looking forward to expressing yourself in ways you may not be able to in your home country. Americans have a big brother complex; meaning, I can criticize my brother but I take offense if you do. That being said, U.S. citizens feel very comfortable speaking ill of the country. However, if an outsider does so, it’s unacceptable. I know it doesn’t sound fair. NO country is perfect, and one should be able to give their honest opinion. However, this is the way it is. So, just go with it!
- Trying to bargain/Haggling
Bargaining isn’t really a thing in America. If your neighbor is selling his used bicycle, sure, haggling will happen, but in shops and markets, prices are listed. If they are, don’t even think about asking for a lower price. It will not be taken kindly.
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